tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post115454974711362835..comments2023-04-10T07:44:36.621-06:00Comments on Angela's Right: My Life Changing Event...August 2, 2006Angelahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03833824980596960608noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post-1155174949319617892006-08-09T19:55:00.000-06:002006-08-09T19:55:00.000-06:00I just landed on your blog... and all I can say is...I just landed on your blog... and all I can say is sorry. Unbelievable pain, which you will pass through and learn from. It shouldn't be so hard, but sometimes it is. Not fair.<BR/><BR/>“You know from past experiences that whenever you have been driven to the wall, or thought you were, you have extricated yourself in a way which you never would have dreamed possible had you not been put to the test. The trouble is that in your everyday life you don't go deep enough to tap the divine mind within you.” -Orson WellsNWOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10057545247948207613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post-1155098675531823182006-08-08T22:44:00.000-06:002006-08-08T22:44:00.000-06:00Oh shit girl~ this is outta left field isn't it?My...Oh shit girl~ this is outta left field isn't it?<BR/>My heart aches for you...I am so sorry!<BR/>Stop blaming yourself first of all.<BR/>Women always want to go to that place of not being enough or being too fucked up for these men who are often very ______.<BR/>Fill in the blank...nothing against him, but it is natural to want to blame when hurting. Also, did he really say that mean stuff to you?<BR/><BR/>I am thinking about you and appreciate your courage to express this out loud.<BR/><BR/>Holla if ya need hugs.....<BR/> <BR/>I can give ya cyber ones!<BR/><BR/>(((((((HUGS))))))))MagicalSishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16379384048505208220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post-1155095701134527372006-08-08T21:55:00.000-06:002006-08-08T21:55:00.000-06:00Wow... I have to say when I read your blog I am lo...Wow... I have to say when I read your blog I am looking at a little of myself about a month ago. Early July my husband decided to leave me to try out another woman because he "was bored". I had the same feelings as you - where did this come from? why me? what did i do wrong?... those are all natural reactions. You loved him, and it's easier to blame one of your actions than to accept the fact that his love wasn't the love that was true. The fact that it came out of nowhere isn't surprising, because I look back and know that my husband was setting me up for a gentle let down for a while. He had made up his mind months ago but couldn't tell me until he shared a bed with another woman. He, too was probably sending signals, but when you love someone SO MUCH you don't pick up on them or want to accept that they're there in the first place. <BR/><BR/>I won't lie... it's going to be hard. You need to come to terms with things in your own time. You will feel extreme pain, and there will be days that you call out his name and pray to God he comes back. There will be days that you literally want to kill him for all the pain he's put you through. But, there will come a day where being away from him brings you peace. I'm sure he did some things prior to this that hurt you, or made you feel down... you may have ignored them as I did, but they still ate away at you. Once that constant hurt is gone, you will start to see that you are stronger than you ever felt possible, because you loved someone so deeply and so passionately even when they didn't deserve it. That takes courage and character. <BR/><BR/>Right now the best advice I have to you is to surround yourself with supportive friends and family. You need to talk this out, and they may be more supportive to your side than you think they will be. Talk Talk Talk until the pieces start to come together. Only then will you see why this happened, and then you can start putting it in the past. <BR/><BR/>This is coming from someone who's been there... it does get better, but cry it out when you need to! Yell and scream and throw a fit if you get mad! Just don't let him see it (don't give him the satisifaction). Stay strong and take care, you are in my thoughts....saffron8675https://www.blogger.com/profile/02980945003597630076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post-1154902982408944572006-08-06T16:23:00.000-06:002006-08-06T16:23:00.000-06:00I really admire you. You really loved someone. Y...I really admire you. You really loved someone. You really let them in. You are right, that is something that is hard for everyone. (especially me) You didn't do anything wrong. He did. He promised to love you forever. He promised to be honest with you. He should have been the one to tell you when he felt his feelings change. However great a guy, he didn't do that, and in my book that doesn't make him great enough. The hurt will pass. It's ok to cry. It may still hurt in 10 years, but like you said you are a fighter. You can do this. You will do this. It's ok to lean on people, and those that will tell you that you did something wrong aren't worth your time. Good luck and if you need more words of encouragement. Please email.Purehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09311653898389326157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post-1154642606507323542006-08-03T16:03:00.000-06:002006-08-03T16:03:00.000-06:00Xavier~ Thanks for commenting. It is a crazy world...Xavier~ <BR/><BR/>Thanks for commenting. It is a crazy world out there. And I want to know what "overwhelmed" means too?Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03833824980596960608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22212454.post-1154639452681730172006-08-03T15:10:00.000-06:002006-08-03T15:10:00.000-06:0016 months ago, my wife of 14 months asked me for a...16 months ago, my wife of 14 months asked me for a divorce and kicked me out of the house. It was the first time someone dumped me, but the magnitude!!! I was sure this was my sould-mate. Well she obviously wasn't. I still have no answer as to why. She admitted almost a year after kicking me out that she was "overwhelmed" Overwhelmed!!!? What the f*ck is that supposed to mean? And get this, she is working towards a Masters in Psychology. Her specialty, marital counseling!!!Xavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02933298307002602443noreply@blogger.com